"Throughout our lives, we must deal with change. Some changes are welcome; some are not. There are changes in our lives which are sudden, such as the unexpected passing of a loved one, an unforeseen illness, the loss of a possession we treasure. But most of the changes take place subtly and slowly. Day by day, minute by minute, second by second we went from where we were to where we are now. The lives of all of us, of course, go through similar alterations and changes. The difference between the changes in my life and the changes in yours is only in the details. Time never stands still; it must steadily march on, and with the marching come the changes. This is our one and only chance at mortal life—here and now. The longer we live, the greater is our realization that it is brief. Opportunities come, and then they are gone. I believe that among the greatest lessons we are to learn in this short sojourn upon the earth are lessons that help us distinguish between what is important and what is not. I plead with you not to let those most important things pass you by as you plan for that illusive and nonexistent future when you will have time to do all that you want to do. Instead, find joy in the journey—now. Let us relish life as we live it, find joy in the journey, and share our love with friends and family. One day each of us will run out of tomorrows. " Thomas S. Monson

April 21, 2015

Karbon is here!...

HE IS HERE!!
Our sweet little Karbon finally made his way into our arms. Born early at 36 weeks exactly, he wasnt waiting any longer to meet his mama and daddy and brothers!

Your birth story:
It was Friday April 17th 2015, a pretty normal day for the most part...I had been having contractions for most of the week but they were on and off. Thursday night I had started timing them for about two hours and there were anywhere from 10 to 20 min apart and only lasted for a few hours and then they died off. Later in the night they started waking me up because they had a little bite to them but again they were very spaced out like every 30 min.
Morning came and I had little contractions. I needed to go to walmart to pick up some last few things like DIAPERS..that we had none of since we were great big slackers and kept
putting it off...but before I was about to go I went into the bathroom and saw that I had a little bit of blood and then my thought process changed to "um this is weird" and "something just might be happening".
My mom had planned to come up and help me get some things done and cleaned so that the house would be ready for baby and it would be one less thing I needed to do before the big day.
When she got to our house at about noon, I had started contracting about every 8 to 10 min apart and started timing them. I told her that I may just be having a baby today and she
was super shocked and we hadnt planned on that so she called kristen to bring her some clothes up just in case and she planned to stay the night just in case something did happen.
Nick brought me some chicken strips for lunch and as I sat there eating them my contractions got painful and closer together...I thought to my self "i really shouldnt' be eating these, I sure hope I dont poop on the table" haha sorry too much info!!
I called a friend and was talking to her and after about 45 min she said "marci get to the hospital"...I called nick and said "um I think I need you to come home cause we might just be having a baby" he was like "WHAT" and said "are you serious, I will be right there" he made it home in about 3 min and I was just walking around trying to get some makeup on and pack a few things just in case. Nick was so funny, running around so fast trying to wash and change his clothes... he was like "babe come on lets go"...for some reason I was so calm and really thought it was nothing and they would be sending us home.
We got to the hospital at 4 pm and I told them I just needed to get checked to see if we were having a baby or if it was just a false alarm. They hooked me up to the monitors and
I was contracting about every 4 to 6 min. My doc wanted them to give some medication that would stop my labor since I was so early and it was a really high risk of Karbon's lungs
not being developed enough for him to breathe on his own, they sat down and told us if I was in labor that my body would not react to the meds and I would just keep contracting and
we would have a baby. sure enough they didnt work. they checked me after 2 of the 4 doses and I was almost a 6 from a 3 and she said "ya girl your staying, you have progressed
even through the meds, your little man just wants to meet you"...I was like "CRAP" we seriously cant have a baby yet...we are not ready AT ALL...we have no diapers and all the things I had planned were not done yet.
About 20 min after she checked me, my water broke...I looked at nick and said "um ya I think my water just broke"...the nurse checked and sure enough it did...that was a for sure
sign that little man was coming out READY OR NOT!!

My doctor came in about 15/20 min later and we told her my water broke, she checked me again and finished breaking the bag of water and about an hour later I felt like it was about time for some pushing. My epidural was fantastic this time, they actually listened to nick and I and only gave me a low dose of pain med so it worked just how I wanted it too!

When the nurse checked me and said "your complete, time to have a baby", I looked over at nick and couldnt believe that this was "IT"...the time had come to welcome our last little one to our family. My heart sank just a little because it doesnt seem real that that time in our life is just about over. I was looking at him and thinking how incredibly lucky I am to have such an amazing husband and daddy to our little boys...how lucky they are and will be their whole live's with a daddy like they have by their side always!
My heart started to flutter as I remember them saying it was time to push...waiting to meet your sweet little face! I was able to see my sweet little boy be born and reach down
and feel him coming into this world, it was so amazing.
It was the shortest 4 min from the first push until you were laying on my belly and we were listening to your sweet tiny little cry. Words cant express the love you feel and how
intense it is the second you lay eyes on your child for the first time, I will truly miss being able to feel that "first" again but I am so grateful that our Heavenly Father kept
you safe and you made it to our arms, it was some of the longest 8 months of my life with all the unknowns that were happening, all daddy and I wanted was you to be here in our
arms safe and sound!
When you were born they had a few people from the nicu in there to make sure you were able to breathe on your own, a minute or two after you were born you started to struggle just a little and all I could do was ask God to just let you be ok and not have to go through anymore hard times and just minutes after that you were doing amazing..I didnt want you to struggle and I didnt want to have to leave you behind at the hospital either, so I am grateful to God for answering another prayer for us and you.

At 9:13 pm April 17th 2015...all 5lbs 1oz 16inches of you came into this world for us to love you..and that we do!

It's one of my most favorite things in the whole world when I get to sit back and watch your daddy look at you and hold you and talk to you...for some reason it melts my heart
and reminds me of what a gentle loving man he is and I can see how much he just loves you as he looks at you! The things I miss out on in the hospital after your birth, like your fist little bath, your foot prints, your first diaper, your fist little moments to look around and see the new place your in...I get to sit back and watch your daddy get to
experience those first with you, makes me want to have a hundred babies just to sit back and get to capture those first memories of daddy and his new babies.

I have LOVED cuddling and kissing your sweet tiny'ness for the past 5 days now, I am so sad you are already 5 days old..I just want you to stay this little forever and ever!
You head is full of super soft dark brown hair with a tiny little mohawk on top, your skin is silky soft and smells so yummy!
Your hands are so tiny and every feature on your body is so amazing to look at..they are all so PERFECT and so micro, its truly amazing.

Life couldn't be any sweeter then it is right now, I am trying to just savor ever day I have with you being so new and tiny because once I blink you wont be so tiny anymore.
My life is perfect, though it didnt go as I had thought, God knew who needed to come to our home and blessed us with healthy beautiful little boys for us to raise and love each day. To be examples to and to teach the love and gospel too so we can all be together forever!

We are so blessed to have you and we are so so very much in love with you..welcome to our crazy family little man, You fit right in!





good advice!

Be very careful if you make a woman cry, because God counts her tears. The woman came out of a man's rib, not from his feet to be walked on, not from his head to be superior, but from his side to be equal! Under the arm to be protected, & next to the heart to be loved.

brothers forever

brothers forever

the haslem family