A letter for the Future...

To my future daughters-in-law,

I have a few things I want to say to you. This can’t possibly cover it all, but luckily, we have some time.

I don’t know you yet, but already, I love you. I love you so much, because some day, you will love my son. And he will return that love.

There will come a day that this sticky, messy, silly little boy will be yours. He will always be mine, but you will take my place in many ways.

Someday your hand will replace mine. Your eyes will be his peace and your heart will be his home.

It’ll be you he kisses goodnight.

It’ll be you he shares his dreams with.

It’ll be you who comforts him when he is scared.

It’ll be you who holds his heart. The same heart that beats against my chest as I hold him each night.

Someday, that will be you.

I always thought I would have a daughter. It's hard. But God had a different plan. Now I know that’s you. I want you to know I pray for you every day, just as I pray for my sons each day.

Right now, you’re everything to your own parents, just as my sons are EVERYTHING to me. I pray you are cherished and believed in. I pray you are being taught to love yourself first, because without that strong love, you will not be as equipped to love others successfully. I pray you are shown every day what a gift you are. I pray that if that message is somehow missed by those around you, you always know that when God looks at you, He sees His princess.

I am raising my son to view you that same way.

I pray you understand your worth and that you respect yourself. That you are being shown to respect others just the same. I pray that you are not afraid to share your voice, but that you use it to speak life; not only to yourself and others you encounter, but to my son. Men need you to speak life into them.

I want you to know that although I will make a lot of mistakes, I am committed to raising my son to honor you. I cannot take full credit, nor blame, for his beauty or his flaws. My own mom taught me that.

He is his own man. He has his own quirks. You’ll figure those out as you go; and someday, you too will know him better than anyone else in the world. Give him the space to be himself, and I will teach him to do the same for you.

He won’t complete you. And you won’t complete him. Only God can do that. But I pray you encourage each other to be even better together than you are on your own.

I promise to let you in. To share my secrets and knowledge of him so that you can love him best. When the time comes, I will trust you with his heart, just as you will trust him with yours. I do not take this heart exchange lightly, and I pray you don’t either. I am raising him to understand the value of a woman’s heart. That it’s priceless, and once broken, can never go back to the way it was before.

That’s not always a bad thing, but if we can avoid it, I don’t want my son to be the one who breaks your heart. I also want you to remember that he can’t be the one to heal it. Again, only you and God can do that. But I will raise my son to forever cherish the gift that is you and your love. I will teach him to understand your value. To honor and respect you, as you do him.

I strive to raise my boys in such a way that they learn how to be strong, yet vulnerable. Brave, yet humble. Courageous and fearless, yet unafraid to ask for help. That they are leaders but know how to follow. I pray he leads you well and understands the honor it is to be in that role. I pray he serves you, but that you never take advantage of his sacrifice.

I pray he fully understands his role as a man and that he lives his life with integrity, honor, humility, honesty, faith and humor. That he knows who he is first in Christ and then within himself. I pray he follows his dreams and passions and that nothing stands in the way of that, that includes you. I pray the same for you.

I am committed to raising my son to be independent and never to look to you to be his mother, because I will have stood in that role well. I vow to be fully present for him. To teach him what he needs to know about women and how special they are. I promise to raise him in such a way that he always remembers you are someone’s daughter and that you belonged to him after you belonged to God and your parents.

I pray that with each day you love my son, your love swells and overflows. I pray the same for him. I hope as the two of you build a life together, that you never forget how that life was built. Stand strong together. You will need each other in this life. It's a hard one. Though I am teaching him to want you rather than to need you, there will be times that he will need you. And you will need him. Be there. Always. No matter what.

SUPPORT each other. LOVE each other. CHOOSE each other.

The noise of the world will be loud. It won’t always be easy. There may be days that you look at him and question every decision you ever made. In those moments, I pray you will fall back on the foundation you built together and remember why you chose to stand there.

I promise you that each day, I will teach my son these same lessons. I will plant seeds of love in his heart every moment. I promise to show him how to take care of himself. How to do the laundry and the dishes, and to never expect you to do it all. How to be your partner. I promise to foster his sensitivity while praising his strength. To teach him how to be open and to hold your words when they spill from your lips and into his hands. I promise to teach him how to catch them. To hold you. To love you. All of you. To see you for you, not what you can offer him.

I promise to raise him to be enough within himself so that he can then be enough for you.

We’ve got a lot of years before we meet. But each day between now and then, I will pray for you. I will love you. And when I meet you, I will love you even more than I already do. Because you will love my son. And you’ll become my daughter.

Happy 4 Months old to our Kar...bunz!....

well month 4 has arrived. I savor every moment with you...something i wish i would have paid more attention to with the other as well....knowing you my last little one and i will never have my own little one doing the same mile stones as you makes me just sit and hold you most of the day. i would trade it!

this month has been SO much fun...you started giggling thing month..i caught one of your first giggles on video..kaylin was at the hotel room holding you and singing a song and you thought it was the funniest thing and just started laughing....MELTED MY DANG HEART....so adorable, I could listen to that my whole life every single day and never get sick of it...ever.

you went in to the doc for your 4 month check up and shots...which you hated.....and your movin on up the charts slowly but surely! 13 pounds on the dot!
you havent liked your bath for some reason lately
you coo at everything
you love to just sit with me or dad and watch everything
you love your frog chair, it lets you sit up on your own and you can see whats going on
you love the swing to sleep now
you have the cutest chubby lets around
your little face is started to get nice and round

we love you so much and you are a perfect fit to our family, you brothers still maul all over you!



here are some cute pics throughout the month!

Happy 31st birthday honey buns...

31 looks good on you!!

Happy 12th anniversary to daddy and i...

12 years. There have been lots of ups and lots of downs but all the ups out weigh the downs and brings us closer!
I love you more today then I did yesterday!